Before You

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We have all made mistakes in our lives with people we cross paths with and grow to care about. We aren’t perfect people in any way. With moments of joy among us, there will inevitably be moments of pain and fears to offset the euphoria. This blog is for everyone and anyone who has ever felt like they have failed or let someone down as a result of our own personal journeys and histories, and inspired by my own personal experiences. This is something I wrote when I was taking some downtime from my blog. Beyond my usual sarcastic humor in this blog, comes occasional cathartic reactions. As much as I try to make humor out of my experiences, I am also very deep.

It’s okay to make mistakes in life. That’s how we learn and grow into a better version of ourselves. If we didn’t fuck up from time to time, we would never learn any lessons and lessons are all a very crucial part of the journey. We are all searching for something real, and something honest. Albeit a person or a personal goal. But sometimes, in relaying our honesty, we reveal our insecurities. It’s okay. You have to roll over the speed bumps in order to continue towards the glide of the paved road ahead.

Before You…

Before this day there was another day just like it. The daylight illuminated my face casting shadows upon my puffy eyes. I laid awake in my bed replaying each moment that led me here to this day like so many more before it.

Before you there was another. And before them, another. And with each ending came new beginnings. New ways to fall, new ways to rise and new shadows cast upon my face from the morning light.

Before you there were questions unanswered. Abrupt departures from my life and unspoken flights. In between the momentous joy and benign hope were fears and doubts rooted deeply, before you.

Before this day there was a day when I had peace and comfort. A time when I didn’t question the details or relate them closely to an experience before you. But the rooted fears and doubts were stronger than the joy, and those were there before you.

Before you I had forgotten how to recognize a lesson. But in reflections after you, it’s all become so clear. Before you was a destiny that I didn’t understand. Before you, I had myself.

There will be another you, and maybe even another after you. Another opportunity and another reminder of hope. Because of you, and before you, I will never forget you.

Sometimes the first step to really achieving true confidence is coming to terms with your short-comings and owning them wholeheartedly in a way you can’t apologize for. You are uniquely and beautifully you and no matter what unbalanced connections you make in this life, there are connections that align completely. Wires get crossed with the wrong configurations and just like an electronic device, we can apply this same rationale to our lives and all the “connections” we come across. It could be within your friendships, family members or matters of love. Sometimes we are able to rewire to make things work, and other times the wires are rendered faulty. No matter what mistakes you’ve made with people, think of them as blessings and ambassadors to your true destination. And above all else, please take care.

xo

A

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Types of Basic Bro’s in Vancouver

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We’ve all heard the term Basic Bitch before. For those of you who haven’t it’s the branding of a woman who is deemed generic based on her tastes and lifestyle choices. In Vancouver, you might describe this woman as a Lululemon wearing, Starbucks toting Sephora addict with a love for mimosas and brunching with the girls. She does yoga, she eats kale and she has at least one Vancouver Canucks fitted t-shirt to which she Instagram selfies herself in routinely on game days, but only within the first month of the NHL season start up and then again months later if they make it to the playoffs. In recent years, she has also become a seemingly die hard Seahawks fan. And this is just one version of the type of basic woman you’ll find in Vancity. But what about the bros?

Basic Bros are totally a thing here too. Don’t think you’re off the hook fellas. Yes, you can make fun of our love for pumpkin spice lattes and Ugg boots, but what about you? Men do a fuck ton of basic shit too. I solicited the help of some of my favorite Vancouver bachelors* to dissect the characteristics of the types of basic bros in Vancouver. Originally, I had a list of 7 Bro types but upon further research and in speaking with my fellow bro’s, we discovered that certain breeds in Vancouver extend from a general directory of bro archetypes in a special brand of what I deem “combros.” For your ease and comfort, I have provided you with a carefully concocted infographic to help you identify any basic bro in question.

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Another noteworthy trait of all basic bro types, is that they will be quick to label anything generic that a woman does as basic. In the end though, all basic means is that we like things that a lot of other people happen to also like. So, unless you’re growing and harvesting your own coffee beans and grinding them yourself using a mortar and pestle before carefully pressing them in the french press you picked up at a vintage shop on Commercial Drive, lay off the love of Starbucks, let us rock those Ugg boots and eat and drink our delicious pumpkin things in peace. Because dudes, you’re basic as fuck too.

xo Cheers!

A

*special thanks and credit to my favorite man human, Spidey for his always perfect and hilarious wording of aforementioned bro traits. And to all the other Bros who contributed to this list.

Resurrection

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It’s been five months since my last entry and I have wrestled with the idea of resurfacing until I knew the direction I want to take my often baffling dating experiences, but in anyone’s coming back from the dead, there must be something worth rising for. And for me, that time is now.

To say that this year was unworthy of detailed juicy blogs would be the understatement of my life. This year, everything changed and my experiences have taken me to new levels. And though I can’t give you the gory details just yet, I can announce to those followers who don’t follow me on Facebook or Instagram that my single girl life really surpassed my wildest expectation when I began getting tagged by friends in a casting for a new reality TV show on Slice Network called First Dates. Now, I can’t divulge the entire process just yet but after blatantly ignoring the tags on Facebook for a couple days, this girl (me) had tee many Martoonis on a Saturday night and filled out the online application, attached a photo and laughed to myself as I hit send thinking nothing more of it as a long shot. Until two days later when the producers called me. And before I knew it, I was a cast member.

Why do a reality show? Because, fuck yes. Why NOT do a reality show? Come on, have you guys read this blog? I’ve literally dated everything from a guy who dozes off at dinner tables in public to that time I accidentally dated a murderer. It was completely normal and natural that this would be the next wild adventure of the girl who writes Singlevancouver. And even though I have learned to not have any real expectations in any of these dating endeavors, and trust that in this process one day, I will be pleasantly surprised, I have one more story for the grand-kids. Who thinks I am going to be one of those cool Grandmas with epic stories about the dick picture era of dating? *raises hand* I do!

And at the risk of sounding like a basic white girl, I literally CAN’T EVEN tell you how excited/nervous I truly am. One thing is for damn sure, when I am sitting pretty behind my picket fence, I will look back on my dating life and have zero regrets about the choices I made and I think that’s the whole point of this. It was after all, the reason I started this blog. I was just trying to understand the journey and process it through my greatest outlet; writing. In the process I have not only met some truly amazing people along the way whom I feel I will have lifelong connections with, but I’ve also been able to share, and be more open and honest about myself, what I want, what I need, and most importantly, I’ve been able to relate to many of my readers across the GLOBE! Hello world! I’m back 🙂

Without further adieu, here are the details. For those of you who don’t have Slice Network, I will try to post short highlight clips of my on screen date when I actually air and am able to finally spill my guts about this whole crazy and fun experience! And for anyone living in the lower mainland, check out Earls Yaletown on Facebook or Instagram for their official viewing party nights. I will be in attendance as much as I can!

First Dates on Slice TV will begin airing Tuesday September 1st at 7:00 pm PST with double episodes until 8:00 pm. Spoiler alert*** I’ll be wearing a red dress. You can’t miss me!

Set your PVR’s and get ready to laugh!

xo Cheers!

A