Okay, so I know I write mainly about dating, but lately my Facebook feed, and certain comments I’ve seen posted has really struck a nerve in me and needs to be addressed as society and this new generation of “adults” need a slap in the face.
A few weeks ago, Lululemon founder, and Vancouverite, Chip Wilson made comments in an interview regarding the scrutiny he has received for the quality of his pants and why the pants pill and are see through. His statements of defense pointed the finger at the wearer of the pants suggesting that his yoga pants aren’t made for everyone and that the pilling occurs due to thighs rubbing together and implied that thighs should not touch if you are fit, healthy and a rightful candidate to shop and wear his brand. As expected, this created public outrage and a few days later in a one minute video clip, Wilson publicly apologizes for the repercussions of what he said, but not for the invalidity of what he said.
The whole thing sparked so many Facebook posts that made me absolutely sick to my stomach. One man writes “stop complaining and get your fat, lazy ass to the gym” while another woman writes “no one cares that you’re curvy. Thighs touching are fucking gross” and that’s only the tip of the iceberg. It’s not just comments pertaining to this specific subject either, a Facebook friend commented on one of those “like if you..” types of pictures and this one was of three different body types. The first was a very thin woman, the second a bit of a fuller woman, and third was a curvier woman (think of a Kim Kardashian body type) Hundreds of people and the majority of the commenter’s posted that #3 was their preference and was the most beautiful whereas my friend said “wow a lot of chubby chasers out there.” Really… chubby chaser? Are you in high school? Recently, another friend of mine who is inspirational in her fitness motivation and runs marathons routinely, expressed how disappointed she is to see the last 5/6 posts on her feed about serious fat shaming or degrading physical appearances and how adults need a bullying time out. A-men!
It’s ironic that cyber bullying is happening so much now and young teenagers are constantly taking their lives over it and then here we are, the “adults” and we’re the ones who are supposed to set examples to our upcoming generations and we are one giant FAIL at it. I got into a heated Facebook debate on one of my friends posts regarding Wilson’s comments because the majority of the comments were “fat people shouldn’t wear their clothes” and “get your fat lazy ass to the gym and stop complaining” (about the women who were outraged by Lululemons lack of offering better quality clothing, and bigger sizes for their $98 price tag) To me, it isn’t about what Chip said, he has validity in what he is saying to a degree. Addition Elle sells plus size clothing. Does this give a petite girl the right to lash out and be angry they don’t carry smaller sizes? No, because their brand is catered to a certain body type, much like Lululemon. It’s an active brand. It’s not what he said; it’s what erupted in society because of what he said that’s sad. Instead of shaming people on how they look, don’t you think as a society it would be more beneficial to motivate people in a positive way? Do you think calling someone a “fatass” or a “lazy bitch” is going to make them want to improve their health and wellness? The other thing to note is that this pressurized environment to look a certain way seems to be more directed at women than men. With a high trend of women getting into body building and having the muscle mass and strength of men, we have forgotten as a society that there are other body types to embrace as well who are also beautiful. I’m not saying obesity isn’t worrisome, as it is detrimental to longevity of life to lead a healthy lifestyle, but we are going about it the wrong way by fat shaming and publically degrading certain physical attributes. Positive words and inspirational stories of success are far more motivational for someone who is overweight to want to make life changes. Calling someone a “whale” is not.
It’s okay to have appeal to certain body types. Some people like very thin, tiny women. These women are beautiful. Some people like a very curvy woman, these women are also beautiful. Some people like men with a bit of a beer belly, the “teddy bear” type. These men are also attractive. Just because you don’t like a certain body type, doesn’t mean you need to share your dismay with the world in a negative way. Be positive and inspirational instead of de-motivational. I’m sick of people thinking that they can “say whatever they want on social media” and “if you don’t like it, don’t look.” Just remember this; social media is public and while yes, everyone has freedom of speech, think of the examples you are setting for our younger generation in an open forum. As the old saying goes, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.