According to Global news, and a survey reported by AYI.com, Vancouver women are the pickiest women in Canada with online dating, and overall male selection. We are the least likely to respond to online messages, or even physical advances when a brave man actually finds the balls to initiate conversation with us. In an interview conducted in a lower mainland shopping mall, several women were interviewed and asked what we look for in men, and the list was long but consistent of a few things…
Doesn’t live at home
Has a car
All but one response pointed towards things of a materialistic nature. One woman said “sense of humor” was important; otherwise she could not date them. What happened to the lists consisting of honesty, ambition, loyalty, common interests, someone who can make you laugh, who will hug you after a bad day and someone who is supportive of your aspirations? Are these key factors in finding a life mate secondary to a persons structured life?
That’s another thing; dating has become so structured now. This came up in a conversation with my mother over the weekend, dirty martinis present. She put it so simply and outlined how times have drastically changed with dating in modern days versus when she was my age. “Everything is so structured now; it’s like big brother. When I was young it was like ‘Hey man, let’s smoke a joint, and now lets go get lucky’” (gotta love that 70’s slang). It was apparently quite simple to meet and date someone 20 years ago. If you liked someone, you hooked up and you worried about the details as you went. 30 years later, this proved an effective dating mechanic for my parents who are still happily married whereas now in a more structured and selective generation, the chance of divorce is as likely as flipping a coin and it landing on tails.
So what is it about women in Vancouver that makes us so picky? Is it our overexposure to high fashion and the pressure to own a $60 pair of underwear from Holt Renfrew or is it simply the way we are being approached? Regardless of how or when a man approaches us, we should be respectful with our responses because clearly, we are being labeled as assholes.
Ladies… give the men some credit. It takes a lot to approach someone, whether you are male or female. Admitting to someone that you like them in this city is like walking through a mine field; be careful where you step or you might explode. Another thing I notice that we are bad for is the pressure of finding someone to take care of us. In this city, women are just as strong and capable as men as one gentlemen mentioned upon being interviewed. So, as strong and capable career women, why is there still such pressure to find a man who is better than us? We are setting ourselves up for failure with this logic. It’s not about finding the better man or woman, but rather about finding the person who makes you better.
In conclusion, I agree that Vancouver women are a picky bunch. We are spoiled with luxuries and a fast paced city life with modern day media adding pressure for us to find a prince charming that is unrealistic. Wanting someone who is on the same level as you is understandable, but wanting someone to ride in on a white horse and “rescue” you is unrealistic. With this being said, I don’t believe the bro’s are completely off the hook as I have learned through online dating specifically that they are just as picky as we can be, but I’ll save that for a later blog…
Check out the Global article and video reporting the findings here: