It seems that at a certain age, we become divided into two categorizes in the dating world; the singles versus non singles. As a single surrounded by non singles, I find myself unable to relate to the problems that non singles have, and vice versa.
When it comes to us singles, we mostly think the trivial issues our coupled friends complain about are down right ridiculous. One of my friends a couple weeks ago barked in my ear for nearly an hour about how her boyfriends old college friend was secretly in love with him (speculation only, no evidence to support) and picked a huge fight complete with tears about how she didn’t want him to see her again. The follow up to the story was that other woman actually ended up getting engaged (only a few weeks after meltdown) yet my friend still convinced herself that she only said yes because her man was taken. Now, I don’t know about anyone else, but I hear this shit ALL THE TIME and I scratch my head. Really? Is that your biggest problem in life? That someone may find your partner attractive? Hell, if that were me, I would be pretty damn happy and flattered, because damn, my mate must be sexy! I certainly wouldn’t be picking a fight over it! Or would I if I were in a relationship? Would I conform to this pattern of thinking?
Then there’s the flip side of this… Some of your coupled friends long for days they can come home to complete silence. The only mess in the house is the one they themselves made, and no one is himming and hawing over the dinner choices. You eat and do what you want, when you want, or at least that’s the assumption. They don’t think about the emotion behind the tragic nature of finding that perfect cut of meat from the local butcher and buying only one, because you eat for one and have no one to share your meal experience with on a day to day basis. The truth is that singles long for companionship, and non singles typically have many complaints about their companionship. We’re never truly satisfied are we?
I can’t help but wonder, will we ever be able to relate to one another or is this where life draws the line down the middle? You’re either on one side or the other, and even if you cross over from one to another, you will eventually become just as the side you join, which is cynical of the opposing end of the spectrum.
What about you? Single or coupled, what drives you batty about people on the other side of your status? I want to hear your complaints!